Friday, November 30, 2012

November Reflection

I really don't believe that tomorrow is December. I feel like i'm running out of time to live. Aahhhh.

If you don't remember, I set two monthly goals for these past 4 weeks. They were:

My November Goals:

1. Practice meditating. 

2. Eat my veggies--daily! 

Wondering how I did?! Well...

Practice meditating: 
Oh, I practiced. Once. It's really hard to completely clear your mind of ALL thoughts. The second I start thinking of nothing, it makes me think about how I'm thinking about nothing and my mind just takes it from there, haha. But, practice makes perfect (or at least close to it), and the reality of the fact is that I didn't practice. It actually wasn't something I really remembered. Other than the beginning of the month when I set my goals, meditating was never really on my mind. My brain has been occupied with plenty of other things this month. So, I failed.

Eat my veggies--daily!:
After setting this goal I went to the grocery story and bought lettuce, cucumbers, carrots, peas, & a variety of peppers. I soon discovered that I can't sit down and eat a bowl of raw peppers, it's just kind of boring and you end up burping up peppers for the rest of the day. I found that I don't mind eating salads, carrots, corn, or peas regularly, so I stuck to those. I have eaten them everyday, with the exception of 2 or 3 days throughout the month. I feel I have succeeded, and i'll continue to make my mama proud by eating my greens. :)


As for December, the only goals I am setting is surviving finals & enjoying break. December should be rather interesting. I'm excited to finish this semester and go back to the suburbs. I'm ready for a Thanksgiving Break Part 2 where I spent a lot of time with old friends at the new bar in town. I'll be home for two weeks, and then on the 27th at 3am i'll be off to O'hare. Hours later i'll be landing at LAX (still have no idea who will be waiting for me there, but there's time to figure out the details). I cannot wait to see palm trees again! I'm nervous about this trip for some reason. I've never traveled so close to Christmas before, so i'm keeping my fingers crossed that the airport experience goes smoothly. As for everything else, I just have to remember that California is one of my favorite places and has some of my favorite people!

Until next time,
xoxoKaila

Sunday, November 25, 2012

Stoopid Sunday

My mind feels so clustered. It's kind of hard to explain, but it's almost as I have so many thoughts and feelings happening right now that it's hard to focus on anything. Of course this isn't the greatest time to be feeling this way. With finals coming up in two weeks, not to mention the papers and tests I have due before then, I really need to focus on school and getting good grades. If a genie were to appear my first wish would be to graduate right now. Two more semesters are going to kill me. I'm ready to move out of Bloomington-Normal for good. But no, instead I get to drive back to school today and dread getting up for class tomorrow.
On top of school, I am extremely stressed out about a variety of other things. I'm at that point were curling up and crying sounds like a wonderful idea. I've never had a real headache, but i'm pretty sure if I was able to get them I would have had one for the past few days. My brain literally feels full, if that even makes sense. I wish I could somehow empty it. Erase everything and be able to walk around with a smile on. Unfortunately, I feel hate creeping back into my heart lately. Probably because of all the stress and worry. I need to get back to chasing happiness.
I know that in 17 days I will be able to breathe a sigh of relief. Finals will be over which will hopefully eliminate a good portion of the stress. I will be able to focus my energy on other things, like Christmas and California (31 days..but who's counting).
It's just really heartbreaking how selfish and inconsiderate human beings can be. I know that at times I definitely fit into these categories. But time & time again people never fail to let you down, whether they are strangers, friends, or even family. It's absolutely terrible. Why do we continue to put up with it? Is it because we love them and care about them? Is it because we don't respect ourselves enough to stand up to them? It it because we are too weak?

Who knows...not me,

xoxo Kaila

Monday, November 19, 2012

Lets Trade Places

Do you know that feeling when you wish you could just fix it all? Take away someone elses pain? Be able to make them forget about everything bad that is happening to them?

One of the hardest things is seeing the people you care about go through something that you have no control over. You hurt for them. You want to heal them. All you can do is be there for them and yet you feel that that just isn't enough. Their heartbreak breaks your heart. It gives you pain seeing them in pain. You shed tears after hearing them shed tears. They've been torn apart and all you want to do is stitch up their wounds.

& Anything you say won't come close to expressing how much you really do care, how much you hate seeing them this way.

You wish you could walk by their side, holding their hand, guiding the way, making sure that they don't forget how to smile. But miles separate you physically and all you can do is hope that they understand that there isn't enough miles in the world to separate you mentally and emotionally. No matter how far away or how long it has been you will continue to care for them and hurt when they are hurting.

It never fails that the people that hurt the most are the ones that deserve it the least. The biggest hearts experience the most breaks. The kindest souls encounter the darkest problems.

All you can wish for is that your words somehow convey even the slightest fraction of your thoughts and feelings. You want them to remember that they are loved, that they will get through it, and that you will always have an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on, and a smile to share.


you are more amazing than you think you are,
xoxo Kaila

Thursday, November 15, 2012

What Do You Want To Do?

Bucket lists are such a fun thing to have, so here's mine...


  • Visit all 50 states.       
              -This has been a goal of mine for years. I've been to 12 states, so I still have quite a ways to go. Also, just simply passing through them doesn't count. You have to stay overnight or at least a whole day (preferably minimum of 24 hours-although I must admit I do count Indiana even though i've never actually stayed there for a full 24, but i've been there enough times for it to count!)


  • Live in a city. 
             -Chicago would be fun, but I won't limit myself. I think city life would be great for a year or two when I am still young. Maybe grad school with provide me with this opportunity (UCLA anyone? ;]).


  • Work somewhere that genuinely makes me happy. 
            -I am going to have to have a job that helps others in order for me to truly enjoy it. I'm interested in helping people who are living in poverty or maybe helping teenagers earn their citizenship. Not really sure exactly what I want to do, maybe even working with children through DCFS/CPS.


  • Graduate College. 
           -If all goes as planned, this time next year I will be preparing to walk across that stage!


  • Ride in a horse drawn carriage downtown Chicago during wintertime. 
           -Every time I go to the city during the holidays I always wish it was me riding in one of the horse drawn carriages, so cute & so romantic [especially if it's snowy]... one day.


  • Have a New Years Eve kiss. 
         -Yeah, I haven't had a midnight kiss yet, what is up with that? Sadddd.


  • Interview random strangers just for the fun of it. 
         -I love love love learning about new people, just hearing their stories. It would be so fun to be able to approach someone and start interviewing them just for the purpose of getting to know them and learning about their experiences in life.


  • Become trilingual. 
        -Well, I already know English. & my next language will definitely be Spanish (as soon as I graduate I'm enrolling in Spanish courses). But for my 3rd language I think I will pick something totally random and cool. Like Russian.


  • Be able to buy a brand new car, fresh off the lot. 
         - Can't wait to do this one, it will be so exciting!


  • Write a book/get something published. 

  • See the aurora borealis. 
          -I want to do this soooo bad & soon! 

  • Spend NYE in Times Square. 
           - I've heard bad things about NYE in Times Square, just because of how crowded it gets and whatnot... but I don't even care, that's not going to stop me. I want to be able to say i've been there to see the ball drop. 

  • Send my parents on a nice vacation. 
         -I will never be able to repay my parents for all the things that they have done and continue to do for me. They are two amazing people that have worked hard to create a good life for their 3 kids and 2 grandchildren. Although I will never be able to give them everything that they deserve, I do want to send them on an amazing vacation. 

  • Experience a sunset and sunrise on a beach. 
          -I've actually already experienced the sunset, but a sunrise would be beautiful too. Maybe i'll be able to do that next month after a long night of partying in LA? haha

  • Drop a bunch of money on a designer outfit and big designer sunglasses then walk down Rodeo Drive or Sunset Blvd acting like i'm famous. 
          -Of course i'd keep the tags on and return it all after (kidding).
  • Learn how to play the piano/keyboard. 
        -I love the piano. My parents actually got me a keyboard years ago for Christmas, but I never learned to play  anything other than Jingle Bells and Twinkle Twinkle Little Star [& trust me, even then all the keys were labeled]. My ultimate goal is to be able to play 'Clocks' by Coldplay. 

  • Fall asleep under the stars in the back of a pickup truck. 
         -Go somewhere away from the city lights, curl up in blankets... sounds perfect, doesn't it? 

  • Own a piece of Tiffany's jewelry. 
        -I love their key collection that came out a few years ago. I'm sure by the time I am able to afford Tiffany's they will have tons of new things, but I love the key necklaces. 

  • Be someone's mentor. 
         -I've seen how powerful a mentor can be [not personally, but through friends] and I want to be that to someone else.

  • Witness sea turtles hatching and running for the ocean. 
         -If you don't know what I am talking about go watch 'The Last Song' or youtube it. I love turtles, this would be absolutely amazing. 

  • Fall in love. 
         -The kind of love that is passionate and full of laughter. 

  • Read the Harry Potter series. 
         -I feel like everyone that has read the Harry Potter books totally love them. I kind of feel like i'm missing out by not being apart of this 'group', hahaha. I know it's a little late, but I feel like if everyone loves them then i'm clearly missing out on something. 

  • Change a life. 
         -Sounds cliche right? Well I want to do it. And no, not just like teaching someone something. But actually changing their life and providing them with a source of happiness. You know when people ask the question 'Who is the one person you admire/that has impacted you the most?' Well I want to be someone's answer. I want to impact someone's life in such a positive way that it's unbelievable. 




My list continues to grow, but this is what I have for now. 
xoxo Kaila



Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Chaotic Thoughts.

Thanksgiving Break is only 3 days away! I really cannot wait to be at home with my family! I miss my little nephews to pieces. Being away from them for longer than few weeks is always sad. What will I do when I move out, perhaps even across country?! I guess I can only focus on the now for the time being. Although this may sound silly, I am totally making it a goal to spend some quality time with my puppy each day over break [okay, she may be 8/9, but she will always be my puppy]. You know how whenever someone close to you has moved or passed away and you regret not spending as much time as you could of with them? Well, I really don't want to feel that way about her [although i'm sure no matter what I will feel like I haven't spent enough time with  her]. As lame as I may sound dogs completely amaze me. Chloe is always there with a wagging tail and a happy whimper when I walk through the door after being away a school. She is the cutest, and most importantly, the sweetest dog. My nephews can pinch her, poke her, sit on her, anything- and she just sits there at takes it like a champ. She would never even think of hurting them. When she gets tired of them she just gets up and moves to a different room. & she is still such a baby, she sucks on her dog bed like it is a pacifier [no joke]. Anyway... did I really just rant about my dog?

Well, back to the beginning, i'm very excited to be off school for an entire week. So much time, especially when I don't have any projects to work on for school :) It's a great feeling. What will I do with my time?
-spend time with my dog, clearly. haha
-spend time with my family
-see friends
-crafts! (I've stumbled upon a few cute things to make on Pinterest)
-shop (California is only 44 days away--some new outfits are a necessity!)
-cook (I really need to become more domestic, so I think I am going to make dinner for my family once or twice, my Mom deserves a break anyway)
-Oh! & my baby brother turns 18 on Monday! :) I really can't get over how old me and my siblings are all becoming. Now that we are all older and over the fighting stage [for the most part] we have some great times & laughs with each other, love them.

I would say I have a pretty solid week ahead of me.

And for a Hello, Again...Update [that's officially the name of my situation that is unfolding]
Although this becomes a little personal, I feel like I need to keep you guys updated since the story started here...
I of course, happened to run into Dan again [I really wish I would have given him a pseudonym, but too late for that].
Well, we were both on our way to the gym a few days after our last run in. And I noticed him a few feet ahead of me. I slowed down quite a bit to stay behind him, because honestly I was kind of trying to avoid him. He was walking extremely slow, so I was contemplating in my head whether to continue to walk at that pace or speed up to my normal pace and walk past him. As I was contemplating this he turned around and was all like 'Hey!', so we started talking. He called me out on not texting him back a few days before, oops. So anyway, as the conversation unfolded I was kind of standoffish, I really don't know why. So we get to the gym and we go our separate ways. Later that night it was really eating at me how I was kind of bitchy. So I texted him apologizing for my behavior. I literally continue to make this whole situation awkward. For the next few days I was thinking to myself that I was totally over analyzing him, and maybe I should just give our friendship a try. I just really am not looking for anything more with him. But, I know I over analyze everything, and I really do want new friends. I am all about diversity, and he would actually be my first black friend. This may sound ignorant of me, but I grew up in a pretty white neighborhood, and after attending school in California where I became friends with tons of Latino/a's I realized that I have never actually had a black friend [actually kind of sad/crazy]. I believe that having a diverse group of friends really makes you see the world differently. I know from experience that becoming very close with people of another culture really opens up your eyes, and erases a lot of the stereotypes. I think it is important to learn about other peoples cultures in order to grow personally.
So fast forward a few more days...and we are at yesterday!
Yesterday, me and Dana [one of my best friends] go to the library, around 7 pm. We go to the 4th floor of the library, and literally every table is occupied. We head down to the 3rd floor, find a table and as we are walking towards it I make eye contact with this guy sitting at a table. I thought maybe it was Dan, but I wasn't sure because he wasn't wearing his glasses, so I was uncertain. We sit at our table [which is only about 15 feet away], and I told Dana that I thought it might be him. We had made eye contact for quite a few more seconds than normal. So I got out my phone and texted him.

Me: Are you at the library?
Dan: Maybe.
Me: Are you on the 3rd floor?
Dan: Maybe...
Me: Are you wearing blue?
Dan: You are obviously stalking me.

hahaha. So after confirming that it was in fact him, I walked over and talked to him for a few minutes. It was a really chill conversation and I was thinking in my head like 'Hey Kaila, you guys can be friends!'. (**Seriously, what are the odds of running into this kid so often when I go to a school with 20,000+ students).

So today... I go to the gym and of course Dan is there too. At first I was all like Yay, my new friend!
Eventually we were both walking around the track, casually talking [before either of us had really started our workouts], *I am going to kind of just sum up this part of the story*, but he puts his arm around my waist, which made me feel completely uncomfortable. & it wasn't just a 2-second thing, it was more like 20-30 seconds (**which feels like an eternity when you feel uncomfortable). & of course moments before this I had agreed to hang out him this week. So anyway to get myself out of this situation I was like 'well, I really gotta go start my workout.' and he hugged me goodbye. I was going in for the whole one-arm, quick side hug, but of course he had other plans..
Anyway, from his behavior, it kind of was apparent that he might not just be looking for a friend.
This whole thing was terribly upsetting to me. As I walked downstairs to the treadmills, I had tears brimming in my eyes. I KNOW THIS SOUNDS PATHETIC. but I was so frustrated at myself for not telling him that I didn't feel comfortable with him touching me like that. I don't want him to think it's okay, but I didn't correct his behavior because I was just so focused on how uncomfortable I was in that moment- I couldn't even bring myself to say anything, if that makes sense. Not only am I super self-conscious but he doesn't even know me.
He literally has no clue who I am, he doesn't know that I have two nephews [who basically consume my whole heart], a dog, or that I spent a year in California. If you don't know any of those 3 things, than you really have no idea who I am because those three things have helped shape and define who I am. He doesn't even know my last name, and he even spells my first name Kayla. It's not that he doesn't show any interest in getting to know me, but our conversations are usually short, so we haven't really gotten deeper than the 'surface conversations'. Anyway, I guess it just upsets me because I'm at a point in my life where I want to get to know people, on a friend level, but really get to know them and learn about how they see the world. & i'm not trying to make him look like a bad person, because I really don't believe he is. I guess I just need to make it clear that right now I'm just about making friends.

So... I really wasn't planning on sharing all of this, but it was something I kind of needed to write about.

What to do, what to do....

xoxo Kaila

Sunday, November 4, 2012

Hello, Again... (part two)

Remember Dan... the boy that I made myself sound so lame in front of on my walk home from class a few weeks ago? (If not go read 'Hello, Again... in my October posts!)

Well.. ran into him today.

So the story goes--
I was at the gym. I had just gotten there and had gone upstairs to the track. There are a few bikes, elliptical machines, and treadmills on each end of the track. I prefer going up there because there are less machines, meaning less people. I was planning on jumping on one of the bikes after a few walks around the track to loosen up a bit. I, of course, had my earphones in, listening to The Strokes Pandora Station which I had just created yesterday (if you do not have this Pandora station--your life is not complete). I had gotten about half way around the track when he comes up on my left side from behind me (yes this whole coming up out of no where seems to be his thing). I look over and my thought running through my head is *omg, it's him again. Kaila, don't make yourself sound as lame as last time, please.

I take out my earphones so I can hear him (also seems to be a recurrence).

Me: Hey!
Dan: Hey, how are you?
Me: I'm pretty good, sorry about our last conversation, I made myself sound kinda lame. Promise i'm not usually like that.
Dan: No, you're all good, don't even worry about it. ... What are you listening to?
Me: Actually, i'm listening to The Strokes station on Pandora, I just started listening to them Thursday, but I love them.
Dan: Never heard of them, let me see. (*He takes my earphones and puts one in his ear to listen.) not bad, pretty chill.

I then asked him what kind of music he listened to. We talked about music, the gym, and what we've been up to lately. He is seriously one of the nicest, easiest persons to conversate with. I could totally be best friends with him. Before we went our separate ways (for him to finish his workout, for me to start mine) he asked me for my number again.

Dan: I don't think I got your number.
Me: No, you totally did last time.
Dan: (*Looking through his phone for my number) I have a Kaila, but it's not you. What's your number again?

I proceed to give him my number, again. He did in fact have my number, he just had it under Kailyn or Kaitlin-something of that nature.

I still can't believe I ran into him again, and that he recognized me. I was looking a mess with my hair up, not showered, with my left over makeup on from yesterday. But i'm glad that I was able to hold a decent conversation without making myself sound stupid!

Hope you all have a good week-
xoxo, Kaila.

Disclaimer: No, I am not interested in him romantically. I'm not really at a point in my life where I am looking for anyone. I'm just really into meeting new people and learning about them. Here's to making new friends! :)

Saturday, November 3, 2012

Notable November.

I seriously love November! It's made up of the perfect combination of excitement, family, holiday, & weather. Don't get me wrong I love December with Christmas and all, but November is wonderful too- you have a holiday, but you are also still looking forward to next months festivities. I love the excitement of looking forward to the holidays. Also, November is still fall, but it also has a bit of winter if you are lucky enough to get the first snowfall of the year towards the end!

This November my baby brother with be turning 18! My parents will officially have children that are all legal adults! Craaaazy. I seriously can't believe how grown up he is becoming. He'll be graduating in May, and has already received a few college acceptance letters. He has a (Mexican-yay!) girlfriend and she's totally adorable! A few weeks ago when my family from all over the country (Washington, California, Minnesota, etc.) were in town she came over and totally handled it like a champ! I remember when she walked into the house and everyone was hanging out in the kitchen, my brother ran upstairs to change out of his work clothes and left her stranded, surrounded by about 15 people she had never met before. She didn't even hesitate to introduce herself and strike up conversation. It was my first time meeting her as well, and I was impressed. I know I wouldn't have been able to seem so comfortable so fast, probably not even at this age! I'm really excited to see where my brother ends up going to school and what he ends up studying. I have a feeling he will love college!

Another thing to love about November is Thanksgiving Break! At ISU we get the whole week off of school,  it's kind of like a pre-winter break. Hopefully this year I will use it wisely and work on some papers that are due during finals, but we will see if that actually happens...


I hope everyone's November is starting off right. If not, a few cozy blankets and a cup of hot chocolate might do the trick! :)

Last but not least---my November monthly goals:

1. Practice meditating
2. Eat my veggies--daily!

We shall see how these go, wish me luck!

xoxo, Kaila