Distance in Time.

I believe that people come into our lives for a reason, to teach us a lesson, and sometimes they have to leave in order for us to fully understand why it is that they were there in the first place.
Sometimes they leave when we don't want them to, sometimes we want them to leave, & sometimes we have to force them to leave.
But, there are plenty of times when someone leaves and we want them to come back. & sometimes they do. Sometimes it works out & sometimes it doesn't.
Goodbyes can be sad, painful, tear filled, & yet sometimes they can be freeing.
Everyone has had to say goodbye to someone that they love whether it be because of death, a move, or personal paths that are no longer aligned.
Not all goodbyes are meant to be forever, some are more of a 'see you later'.
I think that the hardest type of goodbye is one that results in you having to give up on someone. Although, I don't like the wording 'give up', because i don't think i could ever fully give up on someone that i love & care about. I will always have hope that they will find happiness and that they will tap into that bright future that awaits them. Instead of using 'give up' I favor the phrase 'letting go'. Sometimes we have to let go. This doesn't mean that we don't love that person anymore, it just means that sometimes we deserve more. We deserve better than how they treat us, we deserve someone who is willing to show us the love that we show them.
Then there are times we say goodbye because we hope that the other person won't accept it, and that they will reach out to us in order to keep us in their lives. Sometimes it is important to step back and see if they will, see if they want us in their life bad enough. When they don't call, sometimes we cry, but sometimes it opens up our eyes even wider. We are able to see more clearly, we are able to move forward knowing that they didn't feel that we were worth fighting for.
This may sound sad and a bit depressing, but sometimes when we've been fighting for them for so long, it's time to see if they would do the same. It's not that we aren't worth it. Sometimes it's that they don't realize we are worth it, and sometimes it just wasn't meant to be.
Whether it be a friend, family member, or lover- goodbyes can be hard.
Then there are the goodbyes that are just temporary. Someone moves, someone goes off to school, someone joins the military. We say goodbye with every intention of seeing them again. We stay in touch even when they are thousands of miles away, we make sure they know that we are here for them even if we can't be there physically. Some relationships will diminish because they are unable to stand the test of time, yet others will be made stronger. The relationships that are made stronger are the ones that you can count on, the ones that will most likely never disappear. Hold those close, because they can be rare.

xoxoKaila